Shyness

I was watching a program today and a woman said ‘shyness is not one of her problems.’ That made me think. It is very true that people do not want to be shy. I think it’s harder to get a job when you are shy.  I think it’s harder to get a mate. I think it’s harder to make friends. So yes, there are a lot of problems with being shy.

There hasn’t been a time when I felt I wasn’t shy, but there are times when I didn’t feel it was a liability. When I first got sober, within a year I had a lot of friends, I was comfortable in groups, and I was able to not just speak in AA meetings, but actually share.

I was able to find jobs, but there was always a mention of my shyness. It was worse than normal, as evidenced by my boss introducing himself and me at the same time we were going around the  rooms with introductions. I was glad he did it.

Right now I embrace my shyness. I have even spoken up and said to people right up front that I’m socially awkward. I don’t like being shy, but I don’t have to be ashamed of it. It actually feels kind of good that I don’t have to fight to be someone I’m not.

Lots of alcoholics have social anxiety. You know, the type to drink to be comfortable in social situations. There is a percentage of time in AA spent talking about how to manage social situations where there is drinking.

I’m  not alone!

Shyness

One thought on “Shyness

  1. How will you ever get a job when you are always shy? On the other hand the after effect of drinking alcohol really causes anxiety and depression. Actually liquor or alcohol is addictive.

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